A normal difference
How often and in what way we feel desire differs from person to person – and changes over the course of a relationship. Mismatched desire is not a sign that something is wrong with you or your relationship.
It becomes a burden when patterns set in, for example:
Desire arises differently
For some people, desire arises spontaneously, seemingly out of nowhere. For others, it only arises once closeness, touch and arousal are already there. Both are normal – but they easily lead to misunderstandings.
Stress, children, routine, unresolved conflicts or sex that is not very satisfying for one person also often play a role.
How sex therapy can help
Together we look at how desire arises for each of you, what nurtures it and what holds it back. We look for a language for wishes and boundaries and develop ideas for how closeness can become possible again without pressure.
You can come as a couple or on your own. The goal is not for both of you to want the same amount, but for both of you to feel seen.
Sessions take place fully clothed; there is no physical contact.
Frequently asked questions
Who has the “problem” – the person with more or with less desire?
Neither. Mismatched desire is a shared topic of the relationship. That's why it's worth looking at it together.
What if my partner doesn't want to come?
You can also start on your own. A lot often changes when one person tries out new ways.
How much sex is normal?
There is no right frequency. What matters is whether you are both satisfied with your sexuality.
Is it covered by health insurance?
Sessions are generally not covered by basic health insurance. If you have supplementary insurance, it is worth checking in advance. A session costs CHF 150 (individual, 50 min) or CHF 225 (couple, 75 min); a reduced rate is available on request.